You need to move past generalized superficial ways of attracting the attention of the guy you like …and instead move on to laser targeted ways of attracting him. Each of us has in our mind a subliminal guide to our perfect partner. This guide is built up, bit by bit, in our subconscious from the moment we are born. Psychologists call this subliminal guide our Lovemap.
And a large part of our lovemap is constructed as a result of our unmet needs. The subconscious then looks for a way to bring this person into our lives and the way it does this is to make us fall in love with the person who looks like they can satisfy our unmet need. Right now the guy you are trying to get the attention of has a subconscious radar which is looking for someone who can compensate for his unmet needs and his subconscious will cause him to fall in love with the person who achieves this or even partly achieves this.
Therefore, you should try to get his attention in such a way as to display yourself to his subconscious as someone who can compensate for his unmet needs …rather than trying to get his attention in general by flicking your hair or some other such trick. In order to find out what is on a guys subconscious radar, you need to do some detective work.
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This can be done in several ways such as:. Asking him carefully worded questions that are designed to get him to inadvertently reveal his unmet needs without him even realizing it.
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Examining his personality type and what types of needs people of such a personality types tend to be looking for. There is a strong chance that his muscle building is a compensating mechanism to make up for the fact that he was bullied in school and was not able to deal with it.
Such a guy wants to feel strong. So the way to get the attention of this kind of guy would be to compliment him on his physique and tell him he looks strong. Then go one step further and compliment him on his mental strength too.
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In the same way that the guy got attached to muscle building at the gym to compensate for his unmet need, he will begin to grow attached to you because you too are a mechanism to compensate for his unmet need. Or maybe your family lives across the country and you see them infrequently. This freaks you out. Parents should live far, far away! Maybe, 40 and single, you feel like your best years are behind you.
Either way, realize that acting from a place of desperation in wanting love only makes the Universe focus on the lack of love you have …and so it continues to deliver it. Instead, realize that your life is filled with love in so many other areas: your friendships, your family, your passions, your hobbies. Look at it like this: you will not be 40 and single forever. Or 50 and single. Or Or whatever age you are. You might not meet Mr. Right tomorrow. Or even this year. But dating can be fun if you let it. Dating after 40 gives you the opportunity to meet new people, figure out exactly what you need in your life, and then be selective about who you choose to let into your heart.
Your year-old self would be envious.
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